10 Ways to Get Your Act Together


One of the things I see in a lot of you is this burning desire to live a life of passion and excitement and abundance.  A life full of doing good, meaningful work.  On your terms!  With travel!  And hot sex!  And an unlimited supply of chocolate that doesn’t go straight to your ass!

I mean, seriously, I want that too.  I want to wake up every morning loving my life. I want to be free of doubt, anxiety, and the familiar feeling that somehow, somewhere I’m failing at something.  I want to throw caution to the wind and pound some bongo drums and write a NY Times Bestseller.

You know?

The thrilling part of seeking that passion in your own life is that it serves up sexy questions:  What is your mission in life?  How do you want to feel everyday? What does your big audacious dream like look like?  What would you do with a million dollars?  Who do you want to serve?  How do you want to change the world?

It’s the big vision orgasm. It’s vision boards and manifesting and creating your art (whatever your art may be) because to hold it inside physically pains you.  It’s Skype talks with online friends/acquaintances to hammer out new projects and participate in lovefests. It’s knowing that you’ll be the next Oprah, Richard Branson, Hillary Clinton, Amy Adams, Lady Gaga…

It’s the utter faith in your purpose.

And I love all of that.  Hell, I coach around most of it.  I definitely participate in those lovefests.  And drinking wine and writing and jamming to visions of my forthcoming empire?  Adore.


Ahem, ahem… Creating that life of passion and happiness can be decidedly un-sexy at times.

You know all those cliches about getting your act together and your ducks in a row?  Yup.  That’s what I’m talking about.  We need to build the strong base in order to jump off the cliff.  We need to put the work into saving, and disciplining, and de-cluttering in order to make time, space, and funding for our dream lives to blossom.

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed (or underwhelmed, as the case may be) with your passion seeking– take a break from forcing the epiphanies. From burning the candle at both ends. From craving passion in every moment.

Give yourself time to just take care of stuff that has nothing to do with your big dreams.

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I promise you- by taking time to get your act together- you’ll have this lovely white space to play within. You’ll be less anxious.  You’ll feel accomplished.   Your confidence will skyrocket.

You can get back to passion and art and world domination with renewed energy.

10 Ways to Get Your Act Together

MONEY: Read Ramit Sethi’s I Will Teach You to be Rich.  Follow his 6 week program “No Guilt.  No Excuses.  No B.S.”   Your money and your financial peace of mind will thank you.  This is a great program to tackle with a friend.  Practice talking about money and hold each other accountable for the tasks.  Highly recommended!  

HEALTH: Just make one dietary change and stick with it for a month.   Drink more water.  Eliminate fake sugar.  Try being a vegetarian.  Give up alcohol.  What scares you the most?  Try that.

RELATIONSHIPS: Take a moment to make lists for each of the following questions.  Dedicate one day for the next 3 weeks to doing what needs to be done to emerge from this emotional clutter.

  • Who do I need to forgive?
  • Who do I need to thank?
  • Who needs more proof (actions speak louder than words) of my love?

SPACE: Have you purged lately?  Donated extra canned goods or clothing or that old lap top?  What about your creative space?  Do you even have one?  Don’t just keep rearranging the mess- get rid of things.  Even if you just tackle one place (bedside table? car?), you’ll feel the difference.

PARENTS: Do you parents know how you feel about your life?  Can you share with them?  Do you feel safe asking for support?  We all have such different relationships with our parental units, but if they are still in the picture- this is a relationship worth working on. Have a big, brave conversation with them.

SEX: If you’re a 20something girl who has never owned a vibrator/dildo, go buy one.  You can even get one online!  Use it.  (Oh, and if you’re in a relationship with a guy and have never used a vibrating cock ring… Big fan.)  If you’re already all cool with the toys, try reading What’s Up Down There?

WORK: Ask for a informal review from your supervisor to see what’s working and what you can approve on.  Share a big idea you have and take ownership for making it happen.  Be the change you’d like to see in your workplace. Also, stop gossiping at work.  Seriously.

TRAVEL: Pick a dream vacation.  Determine cost.  If you want to go next October, how much do you need to save each month from now til then to make it happen?  Start a separate savings account specifically for this goal.  Automate a transfer from your checking account.  Set date on your calendar to book the trip.  I know, I know- it’s boring, but ultimately practical.  If you save for it, it will happen.  And you won’t go into debt for last minute excursions to tropical islands!

LOVE: Have the conversation that needs to happen.

SPIRITUALITY: Pick one — daily prayer, daily meditation, daily walk outside, daily gratitude list– and practice.  5 minutes counts, as long as you’re focusing on something greater than yourself.  Treat this practice with devotion.  Light a candle, create a special chair/pillow combination, buy yourself a spiritual text to study.  Make it special.

So, lovelies, what do you think?  What are you going to tackle this week?   I want to hear it!


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