10 Things I’d Like to Learn

After a Monday where I couldn’t get off the ground and a Tuesday full of tiny minutiae that probably doesn’t matter in the scheme of things, I escaped to the ocean yesterday afternoon with a chai latte and my journal. This is one of the quickest ways for me to center back into myself —…

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Why I Posted Naked Photos on Instagram

I saw a post on Instagram about the challenge the day it started. My friend and pleasure teacher Ev’yan Whitney was running a Sensual Selfie Challenge, and without thinking too much about it because I knew I would probably talk myself out of it — I yanked my shirt off at 3 pm in my…

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I Don’t Want to Abandon Myself Ever Again

When I read this today it stopped me in my tracks. It was posted in our Reclamation group where we’ve been having deep discussions about feeling our feelings and the places we numb. Ellenkate wrote, “Today I had the thought, ‘When I numb, I abandon myself.’ Followed by, ‘But I have to abandon myself sometimes,…

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The 21 Life Skills of The Reclaimed Woman

You are born free, wild, open, curious. Utterly yourself. Beautifully whole. Yet very few of us keep that wholeness as we pass through the journey of our lives. You learn how to please for safety or validation. You learn how to perform for inclusion or gold stars. You learn how to harden yourself to others’…

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Meeting Yourself Where You Are aka Surrender

You’ve done it. I’ve done it. We’ve all done it… Kicked + screamed + flatout ignored that change was underway or that desperation was creeping in or that love was being ignited. You weren’t ready or able or in the mood for something you couldn’t control. Yet, denying change pretty much guarantees it’s going to…

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But What Will They Think?

I interviewed my good friend, Michelle Ward, about Courage last week for Reclamation. Michelle is the poster child for courage in action — chasing a life of musical theater in NYC, letting go of that dream to become a creative career coach, surviving boob cancer (twice), making tough choices about how to grow her adorable…

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