But What if Being Brave is Hard?


“Here’s the truth about telling stories with your life. It’s going to sound like a great idea, and you are going to get excited about it, and then when it comes time to do the work, you’re not going to want to do it. It’s like that with writing books, and it’s like that with life. People love to have lived a great story, but few people like the work it takes to make it happen. But joy costs pain.”

I saw this Donald Miller quote on Instagram a few weeks ago and it stopped me in my tracks.

“People love to have lived a great story, but few people like the work it takes to make it happen.”


After 9 years of doing this work, I could write a few gems of my own like this…

→ People love to think they’re showing the fuck up for their life, but few people are willing to take the risks to make it happen.

→ People love to say they’re making authentic choices, but few people actually make those choices in the face of family pressure, societal norms, or uncertain outcomes.

→ People love to believe in their big dreams, but few people can sustain the motivation when fear or failure strikes.

But here’s the thing, babe.

It’s all possible. All of it.

Living a great story, showing the fuck up for your life, making authentic choices, believing in your dreams — ALL POSSIBLE.

Making the brave choices will probably cost pain. They’ll most likely cause friction. They’ll push you to edge our comfort zone.

They’ll definitely be hard.

But it doesn’t mean those brave choices aren’t worth it.

And it doesn’t mean you’re not capable of making those brave choices.

If you want to be the woman who puts in the work, takes risks, makes the authentic choice and sustains motivation — you can be her.

You are her.

Fire up your focus, your confidence, and your self love. Get on board with your own power and your ability to withstand conflict. Take exquisite care of yourself so that you can take exquisite care of your dreams.

Gather some hella good cheerleaders who keep reminding you that this work is worth it — even when you’re not seeing immediate results, even when the self-doubt feels suffocating, even when you’ve got to disappoint someone else to be true to you…

And take it one step at a time.

One day at a time.

One right action at a time.

(You’re in good company here. We’re ALL working on living our own version of a great story!)

real talk
in real time

Get my weeklyish love notes for the stories behind these photos + quotes!

Holiday Council

Go above + beyond New Year's Resolutions! Spend 3 weeks with us releasing + Renewing, Dreaming + scheming, Plotting + Planning.

HoCo 2020 Flatlay Fur

Registration is now Open!