The past five months have been the most life changing that I can recall- ever. I started this Stratejoy journey filled with confusion, overwhelming feelings of sadness, anger, and loneliness and I am emerging filled with such purpose and excitement for my life.
What I’m obsessed with at the exact moment? Why would I have dinner with if I could choose? What’s on my life soundtrack? My answers to the interview questions from the ladies of Stratejoy!
This letter has taken you years to be able to write. Even doing it now seems strange and slightly difficult, but it’s important to say how you feel and express yourself. You have seen what keeping your emotions in can do to a person, so this letter is something that has been waiting in the wings for years.
On the last Friday of 2011, I went on my first ever date with myself. I have eaten alone before, but always in a coffee shop or while traveling, and never, never on a Friday night.
While 2011 was the year I stood up for myself and made steps to become my best and happiest me, the majority of the year was spent in various states of emotional unrest and tumultuous events. I am more than happy to wrap up the book for that year and push ahead.
For me, this year was all about a reset for the holidays in terms of traditions. Even for a family that loves celebrating together and remembering holidays past, we all took an inventory this year of what we wanted for the holiday and how we wanted to spend our time.
I have been living solo for just about two months now, but until Saturday, December 10th, my house still had many pieces of my married life all around me. Every day I tried to work around various pieces of my former life and not think of them as reminders of a failed marriage.
Laurenne’s post about friendships totally made me realize how I hit the friend jackpot. One of the greatest lessons of the past year and of working through the Quarter Life Crisis was how amazingly important my support system is, especially my girlfriends.
I am so incredibly blessed that I have an amazingly awesome family- not just my parents and brother, but my grandmother, aunts and uncle, and a tight group of family friends that are closer to me than any of my extended blood family
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about all the things I want to do in my life and the list is long and includes big dreams like a write a bestseller and manageable ones like mow my own lawn.
This year I looked forward to Thanksgiving more than ever before but not because of the amazing spread and annual Cranium game after the meal, but because this year I am truly thankful for my life and everything in it in a new way.
Yes I need money. And yes, I’d definitely like to have more of it now. As I move into a life sans a plus one to add to the monthly income, money is a topic frequently on my mind. I like to have electricity and to pay student loans so no one comes and tries to take me out at the knees. And yes I’d even like having some extra money so I can go on trips or a fun night out with my girlfriends.
So it finally happened. The emotional breakdown and ugly, couldn’t catch my breath cry. Actually, it happened twice within the span of three days.
I am an emotional eater, as well as a person who eats when they are bored, and then shuts down and becomes a couch dweller when things get tough. I’m also a hater of the gym. With various stressors in the past two years and the huge one of getting divorced, I have gained about thirty or so pounds of emotional baggage. While I do have moments when I am angry at myself for allowing such a slow decline, I am not dwelling on the number of pounds. I’m doing something about it.
Kate is one of those folks who takes an idea and runs with it. She is a true leader in every sense of the word, taking risks and making her opinions known. I chose to interview her for this post because while her particular focus in career is museums and art, her ideas about life and going after what you want is something that so many people, no matter the field you work in, can take some cues from.
My Quarter Life Crisis brought with it a serious self-image problem. Before the QLC, my lively, optimistic attitude came through in whatever I was doing. The QLC lessened that greatly and made severe self-doubt and indecisiveness my middle name.
A few weeks ago I wrote of my desire to be a person who does things and goes after them. On purpose I didn’t make specific goals because I frequently bite off more than I can chew in life.
When Molly first introduced the bloggers to Girl Effect and challenged us to write a post inspired by the campaign, I went to the website and watched the intro video, plus a few of the case studies. It is incredibly moving- please take the time to view at least one of the featured girls ( I was moved by Anita from India’s story- you can find it here.)
My job as a museum curator is a big part of who I am. I know people say you should not let your job define you, but for me, I am doing for pay what I would be doing for fun anyway. I know it may not sound like fun to many, but for me, it’s exactly what I wanted for my life, though I didn’t know it for many years that this was what was meant to be.
While married, I never felt comfortable enough with myself outside of work to speak up for what I wanted or to do anything without worrying what people would think.
It’s easy to look back on my life and see what went wrong and all the times I should have stood up for me and said what was on my mind, but in the thick of it, it was hard to figure out what was going on in my head.How my QuarterLife Crisis began and how I was able to pull myself out onto the other side of figuring out who Kristen is.