Enjoy straight-from-the-heart reflections on 2016 from inspirational women, like Kate Swoboda a.k.a. Kate Courageous, in our Holiday Council Featurettes.
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Because of this year, I now believe that boundaries are a kindness. That instead of being the mean rules that you throw down to for protection, they are the container for the magic between humans, as well as the mess. That they are scary as hell to use and that my stomach has flipped more than once while delivering a boundary during this past year, but that they are central to leadership and relationships and not tolerating abuse.
In this year, I am most grateful for people. Over and over, I am grateful for the people that I’m surrounded by. I’m grateful for inclusivity and nurturing. I’m grateful for people openly stepping up and saying, “I’m here. How can I help?” I’m grateful for the opportunity to be that person who says for others, “I’m here. How can I help?” I’m grateful for every loving, kind, and supportive email. I’m grateful for every single time our Team came together. I’m grateful for two really kick-ass attorneys who were incredibly kind at moments when I was both sad and afraid. I’m grateful for Adrianne, our VA. I’m grateful for the CLCC Leadership Team. I’m grateful for simple, spontaneous dinners and coffee dates with friends and walking around IKEA with an ice-cream cone with my BFF, Valerie Tookes. I’m just so glad for the people in my life and the places that they hold in my heart.
In 2017, it will be time for more fun than my critic generally thinks I’m entitled to. I have a great work ethic and a ton of ambition and hustle, and those are things to be proud of, but I want to let myself have more fun reaping the rewards of that work. Complicating the equation is that I love my work, so it’s easy to cross that line into over-work and not even realize it until it’s too late! This is super-difficult to admit to, by the way, that I have trouble letting myself have fun and tend to be in work-work-work mode. Hopefully, admitting it to, oh, say, thousands of people will make pleasure an easier invitation to accept.
In 2017, I will remember that pleasure doesn’t need to be earned. People are my medicine. Trust that the group knows and has its own wisdom. Everyone speaks from her own schema, her own lens on life, and it doesn’t need to be mine. Boundaries don’t limit what can happen; they create the container for the good stuff to happen. It’s okay to say kindly but firmly, “This isn’t right.” People blossom when you notice what’s great about them. If I align my pulse with what I love the most, life gets really good.
Meet Kate! Kate Swoboda (a.k.a. Kate Courageous) is the author of the Courageous Living Program, founder of the Courageous Living Coach Certification, and creator of www.YourCourageousLife.com, where she defines courage as feeling afraid, diving in anyway, and transforming. Her approach combines straight-shooting, pragmatic wisdom with playfully poking at self-imposed limitations of who you are and what’s truly possible for you.
Kate was deemed one of the top 50 bloggers making a difference in fitness, health, and happiness by Greatist. She’s written for Entrepreneur, The Intelligent Optimist, The Daily Love, ProBlogger, MindBodyGreen, Lifetime Moms, and has been breakout session speaker at the World Domination Summit. Her first book with publisher New Harbinger will be on shelves in 2018.