Fact: I am not in control of most things that go on in my life. Most plans don’t go “according to plan”. Most relationships go through rough patches because, you know, other people are involved. Life gets messy and complicated. For the rest of my life, I will be reacting to the unexpected things life throw my way.
And the only thing I can really control is my attitude.
In a lot of ways Mr. A and I missed out on some of the really cool parts of a starting relationship. You know that period when you first get naked with someone and then you get to do it ALL THE TIME and it’s SO MUCH FUN YOU DON’T EVEN CARE THAT YOU’RE NOT SLEEPING MORE THAN 4 HOURS A NIGHT? We kind of sort of had a good week of that it seemed and then I found out I was pregnant, and then I was hit with the morning-sickness bus. On the other hand, we got to spend two months quietly wrapped up in each other (and my nausea). Those early months were spent dreaming about what we wanted our lives to look like and how was would raise our baby. We built a cocoon around ourselves and it was so safe and secluded and when I think about it like that I can’t bring myself any alternative.
Transitioning into parenthood is going to be hard, at least that’s what I’ve heard. But maybe Mr. A and I have a unique advantage because we haven’t had single period in our relationship that wasn’t a transition of some sort. We didn’t spend 7 years living together in a fancy place with expendable income and tons of us time. The majority of our relationship, thus far, has been pointed directly towards Baby A, and maybe that will make the transition a little easier on us.