I’m going to tell it to you straight. The Quarterlife Crisis is a real experience of women in their twenties and early thirties.
It’s a slightly silly term for a real period of change. Of seeking. Of sorting out our best lives, on our terms, with the resources we have.
The term might be silly, but the process of growth is anything but.
Let me know if any of this sounds familiar:
- You feel disconnected from your life and confused about your next steps
- You’re disappointed in your day-to-day, but overwhelmed by all the possibilities out there
- You’ve realized being an adult ain’t all it is cracked up to be
- You panic when you think about everything you were supposed to do by age 30
- You’ve run out of milestones to hit (graduate! get a job!) and aren’t sure what comes next
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QUARTERLIFE CRISIS BOOK
Over the past three years, I’ve had 33 amazing women write about their own Quarterlife Crisis Journey in six month “seasons” on the Stratejoy blog. They shared their story in real-time: the ups, the downs, the lessons learned, the celebrations, and the growth.
These beautiful souls and talented writers helped spread the word that the Quarterlife Crisis happens to the best of us: to students and mamas, entrepreneurs and artists, wives and party girls. They helped challenge the stigma that this “Crisis” is considered a failure and that somehow we could have avoided it, if only we had everything figured out.
I’ve gathered the very best of the 900+ posts together in a gorgeous 160 page book for YOU, divided into sections on Family & Friends, Love, Life Lessons, Travel & Adventure, Work Life, Money and Self-Love.
Sick of feeling alone in this crazy QLC? This will definitely help.
WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THE QLC? READ ON!
Why does the Quarterlife Crisis hit?
Gen Y grew up with the promise we could be anything we wanted to be and if we worked hard enough and did everything right, we could have it “all”. Sounds incredibly exciting, right?
We could be a glamorous career woman with the corner office and be an amazingly creative mother who finger-paints the bathroom with her kids and be a tigress in the bedroom with our toned body and matching lingerie.
Or maybe that’s too far in the future?
Well, at least we could be a fashionable city dweller, with a diverse group of hilarious friends all trying to make it in the world, downing cocktails and have dating adventures and taking hot yoga classes three times a week, while our boss takes us under their wing and supports our career dreams to make an impact on the world.
Those are some of the shiny, glossy versions of “all” I hear – there are many, many others.
None of these dreams are out of the question, impossible, or without merit.
But when we expect them to magically happen or when we haven’t examined which dreams of “all” are really and truly ours, we are setting ourselves up for QLC meltdowns.
NOBODY HAS IT ALL “FIGURED OUT” ALL THE TIME.
That cliché about life being a journey? It’s so true.
Many of us feel disappointed, lost or disconnected when the real world kicks in because we had internalized those unexamined expectations. When the safety of school is over/glamour of our first job ends/first serious relationship breaks up, we feel a sense of crisis because we definitely don’t have it “all”.
And we don’t have a clue what to do about it…
The pluses? When life begs you to examine your definitions of success and having it “all” at such a young age – you have the ability to truly re-evaluate and make changes.
You’ve just got to be willing to go for it.
You’ve got to be courageous enough to admit that the life you wake up to every morning isn’t actually the one you want. You’ve got to be ballsy enough to take stock of your life and seek clarity about how you really want to show up in the world. You’ve got to be brave enough not to settle.
You’ve got to care enough about your life to do something about it.
And as long as you don’t allow your Quarterlife Crisis to take you down and out, you will be all the stronger, healthier and happier for it.
The QLC will force you to admit that alignment between your values and your choices creates fulfillment, not your bank account, your closet, or your upcoming vacation.
THE QUARTERLIFE CRISIS IS A RITE OF PASSAGE.
Embrace it. Use it to grow and learn and laugh hysterically. Use it to affect positive change, or polish some rough corners, or make some major shifts in how you live your life.
I’m here to help.