THE NEW MAMA GUIDE
Since we jam about transitions here at Stratejoy, how could I not address becoming a mother for the first time? Talk about a vulnerable, world-changing, identity-shifting period of change!
As a new Mama myself, I understand what you’re going through, honey.
There are a million and one choices to make about birthing, providing, and parenting that you’ve probably never thought about.
I’m no parenting expert, but I do spend a lot of time teaching women to value their worth and create their own joy.
Joy in your work. Joy in your choices. Joy in your relationships. So now…
Joy in your parenting.
For you + your tiny person.
Are you pregnant for the first time? A new mama who wants to try parenting with intention? I’ve gathered some useful posts about my own experience, as well as some from my guest bloggers to help you out! As my tiny boy person grows, I’ll be adding more here.
Find these posts useful? Please share away!
THE PART NOBODY TALKS ABOUT…
When I shared with the world that I was pregnant, a rush of support flooded my inbox. It was wonderful — but the offers of help made me worry about what kind of “help” I was going to need. What had I gotten myself into?
There were so, so many questions running through my head.
- Did I believe in attachment parenting? Were we going to co-sleep? Cloth-diaper? Breast-feed? Do craniosacral therapy? Learn baby massage?
- Was I going to have a medicated birth? Get an epidural? Take a birthing class? Hire a doula?
- What kind of stroller/highchair/crib/toys/clothes/diapers/wraps/carseat did I want?
- Was I going to continue to work? Stay at home? Keep traveling so much? Move near my family? Become a mommy blogger?
- Would we join a church? Get the baby baptized? How would we teach our child about the differences in our belief systems?
And the one question I really wanted to talk to people about seemed off-limits…
How was my life going to change when I became a mama?
How was I going to change?
I felt selfish even thinking about my life because when you become a mama, you automatically turn your life over to your little one, right? You can’t put yourself first anymore — you brought another human being into the world! They are your responsibility! They come first! You must make all choices through the lens of being a mother foremost, woman/wife/artist/teacher/writer/sexpot second.
While I agree with this somewhat, I also believe there is no need to lose the pieces that make us the brilliant women we are when we have a child. The transition to mama should *add* to the fullness of your life and the beauty of your experience, not take away from it. And though that may sound overwhelming, I’m taking it one small step at a time in my own world. And so far? It’s a teetering balance of gorgeousness and crazy: a thriving business, a healthy marriage, a “life” and of course, a tiny boy person.
I’m still at the beginning of this journey, but I’d love for you to come along.
I think everything is easier in like-minded company, don’t you? No need to go through this journey alone.
New Mamas? I’m here to help.
p.s. I’ll be running a New Mama Council in Spring 2013 so that we can gather, discuss and learn from one another. Leave your name and email HERE if you want notice when we open registration!